Wesley was born in New Brunswick, New Jersey, to Polish parents Tomasz and Agnieszka Wasilewski, and grew up in Marlboro Township, New Jersey. He has one older sister, Monika, and two younger sisters, Julia and Leah. In addition to English, he speaks Polish, having spent four months every year in Poland until the age of 16.
Wesley attended Christian Brothers Academy in Lincroft, New Jersey and Marlboro High School for a period during his high school years. During his junior year in high school, he was cast in the soap opera Guiding Light as character Max Nickerson. He transferred from Marlboro High School to Lakewood Prep School in Howell, New Jersey because the school was able to accommodate his acting schedule. He graduated from there in 2000 and then started college at Rutgers University in New Jersey but left after one semester with his parents’ support when more roles were offered to him, and he realized he could make a career out of acting.
In 2001, he was one of the main cast members of the short lived TV series Wolf Lake, playing the role of Lucas “Luke” Cates. The show’s cast also featured Tim Matheson, Sharon Lawrence, Graham Greene & Bruce McGill. The show was about a Seattle policeman John Kanin Lou Diamond Phillips proposes to his girlfriend, Ruby Wilder Mia Kirshner, and she accepts. However, as she gets into her car, she is attacked and all Kanin finds is a severed hand. He travels to her hometown of Wolf Lake to find some answers. However, his experiences there raise even more questions. What John doesn’t know is that some of the inhabitants of Wolf Lake are actually werewolves. The werewolves, or the ones who survive the change, live on the “Hill” and enjoy special treatment, separated from the normal humans.
Wesley has hosted 2 fundraising campaigns on Represent.com to raise funds for charity. For his first campaign, Wesley released a cat shirt design to raise funds for The Humane Society of the United States. The campaign sold almost 3,000 units. For his second campaign, Wesley teamed up with The Vampire Diaries co-star Wesley has hosted 2 fundraising campaigns on Represent.com to raise funds for charity. For his first campaign, Wesley released a cat shirt design to raise funds for The Humane Society of the United States. The campaign sold almost 3,000 units. For his second campaign, Wesley teamed up with The Vampire Diaries co-star Ian Somerhalder to release a limited edition shirt designed by a fan, with the words “Blood Brothers Since 1864.” This campaign sold almost 10,000 shirts. to release a limited edition shirt designed by a fan, with the words “Blood Brothers Since 1864.” This campaign sold almost 10,000 shirts.
Wesley met and began dating actress Torrey DeVitto in 2007 when they acted together in Killer Movie. They married in a private ceremony in New York City in April 2011. In July 2013, it was reported that they had filed for divorce. The divorce was finalized in December 2013.
Wesley lived in Atlanta, Georgia while filming The Vampire Diaries and the rest of the time with his then-wife Torrey DeVitto in Los Angeles, California. He sold his Los Angeles-residence after his divorce at the end of 2013.
Wesley met actress Phoebe Tonkin on the set of The Vampire Diaries in 2012; they have been a couple since September 2013.
In 2005, he began to credit himself as Paul Wesley. When asked why he changed his professional name to Paul Wesley, he replied, “My birthname is too hard to pronounce.